(1) You. Three factors – who you are, what you want out of the divorce, and how eager you are to save or end your marriage – will impact how you show up and influence the divorce outcome. (2) Your spouse. The same three factors – Who s/he is, what s/he wants out of the divorce, and how eager s/he is to save or end the marriage – will influence the divorce outcome. There are things you can do to encourage your spouse to do the right thing and make the divorce less painful for you both. (3) Your attorney....Read More
Category Archives: Divorce
Make Change Work for You in Your Divorce
When we experiences change in our life such as a divorce, we can control our response and reaction to the changes that are happening. Our role as masters of our own destinies is cemented when we choose to make change work in our favor. Yet before we can truly internalize this power, we must accept that we cannot hide from the changes taking place all around us. Existence as we know it will come to an end at one or more points in our lives, making way for some new and perhaps unexpected mode of being. This transformation will take...Read More
The Benefits of Mediation in Divorce
It is universally agreed that when possible, allowing parties to make their own decisions that impact their own financial outcome with the assistance of a mediator is much better than having a judge tell everybody what to do. The mediation process, because it is a negotiation, gives the parties a chance to seek a win-win resolution or to come up with alternative resolutions that benefit everyone involved. Litigation, while necessary in certain cases, is indeed a win-lose proposition. In effect, there can only be one “winner” or “loser” in trial. Trial is an exercise of loss of control by the...Read More
Divorce Coaching Coming Soon to South Florida Mediation Services
Each of the myriad decisions in divorce has the potential to have a deep impact on the lives of a divorcing party. Some choices touch to the very cores, awakening poignant feelings inside. Others seem at first to be simple but prove to be confusingly complex. Making the best decisions is best made from a balanced emotional and intellectual foundation so that both sides of an issue or alternative can be clearly seen. Likewise, accepting compromise is a natural fact of divorce and of life. Instead of relying solely on individual feelings or rationality, it can be very helpful to...Read More
Top Fifteen Financial Moves to Keep You in Line During a Divorce
Marriage is more than a legal relationship. It is a union of finances as well. If you plan to divorce, untangling your finances is a large part of the battle. Divorce is one of the most financially traumatic things a couple can go through makes. 1. Make copies of all credit card statements, bank statements and three years of tax returns. 2. Identify all marital debts. Pull credit report to ensure that you are aware of all outstanding debt. 3. Value all assets, if possible. Remember, assets are ultimately worth what someone is willing to pay for them. And the only way to...Read More